Reading Pitstop: Words, oh, words

I recently received an email from Pocket (one of my all-time favourite apps) telling me that I’ve made it to the Top 5% of readers. Yes. I am now a verified bookworm-nerd. And I was quite pleased at the affirmation. Read till the end because I saved the best for last ♥

Instagram makes teens and celebrities angry by killing millions of spambots // Article, Social Media // I thought this was amusing because of the vitriol that’s spilling from those affected. The closing lines are also pretty funny.

What Happens to Our Brains When We Exercise and How it Makes Us Happier // Article, Fitness // I kid you not, this article literally got me out of bed one morning. Been trying to get back in my exercise groove and reading stuff like that is a small motivation.

How Exercise Changes Our DNA // Article, Fitness // I started exercising for health reasons, but the aesthetic ones can get in the way. Time and again, when I feel like cutting back because I’m happy with the way my body looks and feels, I come across a reminder like this that the goal is a long-term one. Look beyond the ‘now’.

The New Trophy Wife // Opinion, Relationships, Women // Love it or hate it, this writer speaks the truth about the evolution of the ideal wife. Some women hate this article because the term “trophy wife” suggests that a wife still only has instrumental value, others hate it because it sets the bar even higher than it previously was. I love it because while the bar may be set higher, becoming smarter than you currently are is, to me, more achievable than becoming more beautiful.

Vladimir Nabokov’s Passionate Love Letters to Vera and His Affectionate Bestiary of Nicknames for Her // Review, Letters, Literature, Love // I’m including this because underneath my practical, efficient, and utilitarian exterior is a great big softie — any non-corny, romantic sentiment will leave me much like a s’more. I’ll leave you with some lovely words:

“How can I explain to you, my happiness, my golden wonderful happiness, how much I am all yours — with all my memories, poems, outbursts, inner whirlwinds? Or explain that I cannot write a word without hearing how you will pronounce it — and can’t recall a single trifle I’ve lived through without regret — so sharp! — that we haven’t lived through it together — whether it’s the most, the most personal, intransmissible — or only some sunset or other at the bend of a road — you see what I mean, my happiness?


I swear — and the inkblot has nothing to do with it — I swear by all that’s dear to me, all I believe in — I swear that I have never loved before as I love you, — with such tenderness — to the point of tears — and with such a sense of radiance.”

“I simply want to tell you that somehow I can’t imagine life without you…

I love you, I want you, I need you unbearably… Your eyes — which shine so wonder-struck when, with your head thrown back, you tell something funny — your eyes, your voice, lips, your shoulders — so light, sunny…”

Oh, words.

Curated See

Visual Pitstop: Entrepreneurship, Love, and Pets

Lessons on Love, Learning, and Leadership from an Entrepreneurial Power Couple
// Video, Entrepreneurship, Life, Love // Yael Cohen Braun and Scooter Braun talk about how they balance the demands of an entrepreneurial life with family and love.

How Passion, Priorities, and Family Power These Two Driven Entrepreneurs
// Video, Entrepreneurship, Balance // Yael Cohen Braun and Scooter Braun answer some viewer questions. Worth playing in the background just for hear them out.

How Your Cat is Making You Crazy
// Article, Pets, Health // One of my best friends loves her cat to death. She thought I was crazy when I mentioned hearing about this parasite and its freaky freaky effects. Babette, I’m not nuts. It’s worth a read even if you aren’t a cat owner or you don’t give a shit (pun intended) about cats because this is riveting stuff, psychologically- and scientifically-speaking.

Love is Not Enough
// Blog, Love, Relationships // Mark Manson writes: “The only way you can fully enjoy the love in your life is to choose to make something else more important in your life than love.” In this romantic day and age where so many of us hope for the once-in-a-lifetime, soulmate-type of love, this piece can take you back to earth, gently and lucidly.

Finally, I really enjoyed this What’s in My Travel Bag video by heyclaire, who is quickly becoming one of my favourite youtubers:




“In the flush of love’s light, we dare be brave.

And suddenly we see that love costs all we are, and will ever be.

Yet it is only love which sets us free.”

Maya Angelou



Love is that condition in the human spirit so profound
that it empowers us to develop courage;
to trust that courage and build bridges with it;
to trust those bridges and cross over them
so we can attempt to reach each other.

Maya Angelou


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Visual Pitstop



The Love Edition

The One Thing Your Relationship Needs Right Now (And Every Day) // Blog, Relationship // We often take our partners for granted and spend time with them without really spending time with them. Denise Li reflects about the importance of being present, always.

Taking Marriage One Year At A Time // Opinion, Relationship // Edan Lepucki writes about the trials and tribulations of staying married, and of renewing the decision to stay married every year.

How We End Up Marrying the Wrong People // Article, Relationship // The Philosophers’ Mail analyses the common oversights responsible for marital unhappiness. This is a really long piece, but it’s worth the read.

What Every Argument You’ve Had Is Really About // Article, Relationships // Spoiler: “It’s not you, it’s me.” is actually quite true. It’s really simple.



“We, unaccustomed to courage
exiles from delight
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life.

Love arrives
and in its train come ecstasies
old memories of pleasure
ancient histories of pain.
Yet if we are bold,
love strikes away the chains of fear
from our souls.

We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love’s light
we dare be brave
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free.”

Maya Angelou



“My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return.”

Maya Angelou






by William Matthews

“Perhaps you’ll tire of me,” muses
my love, although she’s like a great city
to me, or a park that finds new
ways to wear each flounce of light
and investiture of weather.
Soil doesn’t tire of rain, I think,

but I know what she fears: plans warp,
planes explode, topsoil gets peeled away
by floods. And worse than what we can’t
control is what we could; those drab
scuttled marriages we shed so
gratefully may auger we’re on our owns

for good reason. “Hi, honey,” chirps Dread
when I come through the door; “you’re home.”
Experience is a great teacher
of the value of experience,
its claustrophobic prudence,
its gloomy name-the-disasters-

in-advance charisma. Listen,
my wary one, it’s far too late
to unlove each other. Instead let’s cook
something elaborate and not
invite anyone to share it but eat it
all up very very slowly.


The little moments — relish them! — they are what we have right now. Far more real than the not-yets or ominous never-evers.


Rosy Ear

by Zbigniew Herbert

I thought
but I know her so well
we have been living together so many years

I know
her bird-like head
white arms
and belly

until one time
on a winter evening
she sat down beside me
and in the lamplight
falling from behind us
I saw a rosy ear

a comic petal of skin
a conch with living blood
inside it

I didn’t say anything then—

it would be good to write
a poem about a rosy ear
but not so that people would say
what a subject he chose
he’s trying to be eccentric

so that nobody even would smile
so that they would understand that I proclaim
a mystery

I didn’t say anything then
but that night when we were in bed together
delicately I essayed
the exotic taste
of a rosy ear

(Translation by Alissa Valles)

On discovering new things about your love.